Showing posts with label anniversaries. Show all posts
Showing posts with label anniversaries. Show all posts

Tuesday, 15 June 2021

AN ANNIVERSARY RECOLLECTION

 

Long before David and I were legally 'married', before even we we able to become 'Civil Partners', we had to decide what date to fix as our 'anniversary'. As gays, the choice was not, I'm afraid, noted for its subtlety!

After a few months of celibate dating – I had decided the time had come to move things along! Living at home with my parents precluded that option as a venue, and I ruled out David's flat as it was still very much the home that he had shared with his late partner and I wanted 'neutral territory'.

In those days, back in 1990, I was still gainfully employed as One of the Voices of the BBC, and was earning a quite healthy living –– oh, if only I'd known then how transient success could be! –– so I simply booked a room at The Savoy Hotel (Room # 234, costing, I note, £180 a night) and invited David to dinner at The Savoy Grill with the instruction (again, scarcely subtle!): "Bring a toothbrush!"

After a long evening and a short night, David had to rush off to his teaching job in South East London –– but not before giving me a wonderful present: the key to the door of his London flat. I lingered over my Savoy breakfast contemplating the fact that my life had dramatically turned a corner...

That was thirty-one years ago, today, and... well... d'you know what...? I think it was, without question, the best £180 I ever spent!

With anniversary love to my now Husband.

Here we are together as photographed, in 2019, by Tobias Eckrich.

 


 

 

Tuesday, 4 July 2017

ALL ON A GOLDEN AFTERNOON

One hundred and fifty-five years ago, today, the Reverend Charles Lutwidge Dodgson and an Oxford colleague, the Reverend Robinson Duckworth, took the three daughters of the Dean of Christ Church – Lorina, Alice and Edith Liddell – on a boating trip.

As they rowed along on that 'golden afternoon', Dodgson improvised a fantasy about the curious adventures of a little girl named (like one of the girls on the trip) 'Alice', who followed a White Rabbit in a waistcoat with a watch down a rabbit-hole and found herself in a true land of wonders...

At Alice’s request, Dodgson wrote out the story – first calling it Alice’s Adventures Under Ground – and added his own distinctively idiosyncratic illustrations.



By 1865, it had grown (like someone who had nibbled an EAT ME cake) into Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland and was published under the authorship of 'Lewis Carroll' with illustrations by the legendary Punch cartoonist, Sir John Tenniel.


The book was made Mr Dodgson’s alter ego one of the most famous men in Victorian England. It also revolutionised children’s literature by abandoning, at a stroke, the long and piously-held tradition of moral-and-improving tales for the young in favour of zany, witty nonsense that had no underlying message other than fun...

July the 4th is also, of course, American Independence Day and is interesting to note how many true literary successors to Lewis Carroll – among them L Frank Baum, James Thurber, Ogden Nash and Maurice Sendak – have sprung up in America.

But then perhaps this shouldn’t really surprise us, since the Americans have always shown themselves to be far greater lovers and defenders of Wonderland (and Looking-glass World) than the English have ever been…

Maybe there are reasons for this affinity between the American sensibility and Carroll’s nonsense realm: for one thing, Alice is a highly independent and self-determining individual (a truly revolutionary notion for a child’s book of the 1800s); for another, the Wonderlanders with whom she mixes are a wildly disparate conglomeration of diverse species – animals, humans, animals-dressed-as-humans and humans-with-animal-masks – all of whom (for the most part) rub along together but who are, together, fiercely territorial!


I find it fascinating – and humbling – that, in 1948 (by which time the original manuscript of
Alice’s Adventures Under Ground
had been sold and was in the possession of an American collector), a group of US well-wishers, led by the Librarian of Congress, should have started a fund to raise the considerable sum of money required to buy back the manuscript and send it home to us!



That first foray into Carroll's underground wonderworld now resides in the British Library and maybe we should remember the American act of selfless generosity which made that possible the next time we look at, say, the Elgin Marbles…

Meanwhile, time to raise a cup of tea and join in the toast-----

Happy 155th Birthday, Alice!

Happy 241st Birthday, America!


This blog post is a edited reprint of a post from 2007

Sunday, 15 June 2014

CELEBRATING US...

We've still twelve months to go to our quarter-century and silver celebrations, but today marks twenty-four years since David and I first 'got together'...

Marriage, and even civil partnerships, still being a thing of the future, we count our anniversary from our first proper (and, actually, rather improper) date: dinner at the Savoy Grill and an overnight stay inn the hotel upstairs!

To commemorate our two-dozen years together, here's a 'selfie' of the two of us (taken several years ago, before we knew they were going to be called 'selfies') in one of the exquisite, gilded, mirrored rooms in Teatro La Fenice in our beloved Venice...


I like it (despite the pixilation) because – being quartered – it's a reminder that, like all relationships, we are the sum of our separate parts and identities...

HE & ME: 1990-2014

Tuesday, 4 October 2011

ODD COUPLE

David and I celebrate the fourth anniversary of our Civil Partnership today – although, in total, we have been together now for 21 years!

I recently stumbled on a numerology-based compatibility test. A bit late to start running tests on a relationship that's been going for over two decades, you might say, but the results were interesting.

Anyone who knows us, will have a view on just how accurate it is...



Compatibility level: 100% - A natural fit that usually produces a very compatible relationship.

David is drawn to Brian, in part, because Brian has great inner strength and the kind of personal power that reveals the possibility of worldly success. Capable and goal-oriented, Brian is a force to be reckoned with.

Brian is attracted to David largely because Brian recognizes in David an emotional and spiritual wealth that may well have remained, at least to some extent, dormant in the life of Brian. David lives and experiences life on many levels. David knows the heart and the power of emotions.

When David and Brian are brought together, individual innate qualities can produce quite a balanced relationship. This is a combination with potential to survive for years and years.

However, an important detail they both must be attentive to is that the relation between them is often based on illusions, and when such illusions fall apart, the relationship may crash.

David sees strength, and thinks it will always be there. Brian sees romance and the subtle powers of the heart, and thinks it will last forever. Neither does, of course. Strength eventually dissipates. The heart slowly loses interest. However, that does not mean this relationship does not stand a chance. It certainly does. And the key to make it a pleasant, long lasting relationship is to recognize each other for what they are, beyond the obvious.

David must learn to love not only Brian's strength and capabilities but also Brian's weaknesses. It is important that David can love Brian as a whole human being. And Brian, in turn, must learn to love not only the romantic presence, the passion of the heart Brian craves in David, but David as a whole human being.

Few combinations tend to give birth to relationships based on illusions as often as do these two. But David and Brian must not forget that they both have many other qualities to be brought to the surface, exercised and explored to their mutual benefit. They just need to keep that in mind, to unite their respective strengths and move on to turn theirs into a most pleasant, rewarding, and long-lasting relationship.
So, watch this space...

Meanwhile--

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY, DAVID,
AND THANKS FOR EVERYTHING!

Monday, 4 July 2011

ALICE AFORETHOUGHT

July 4th has another claim to fame apart from being American Independence Day (greetings to all my American readers!) because one-hundred-and-forty-nine years ago, today, Charles Dodgson, a mathematics don from Christ Church, Oxford, took three little girls on a river picnic and, as they rowed, began spinning a tale of a little girl called Alice who followed a white rabbit with a watch, fell down a rabbit-hole and found herself in a place that could only be described as a land of wonders...

The book, published two years later in 1864 under the pen-name of Lewis Carroll, was illustrated by the great British Victorian cartoonist, John Tenniel (resulting in images that are, in the estimation of many, inseparable from the text), but countless other artists have since depicted Alice's Adventures in Wonderland, among them, in 1946, Mervyn Peake and, as we are currently marking the centenary of that man's birth, here are a few of his strikingly original Alice images...

Striking because Alice is so much a child of our time, as opposed to Tenniel's nineteenth century child; striking because the White Rabbit looks genuinely harried about being late, the Queen's Footman is truly a fish out of water, the Hatter and Hare (and probably the Dormouse too, if he were awake) are clearly dangerously unhinged, the Jabberwock is not a foe to be taken lightly by any beamish boy, the Walrus is accompanied by a carved-wood carpenter and Alice wears an ivory chess-piece crown and holds us with eyes that have unquestionably beheld wonders...









And, finally, on this frabjous day, here's a commercial for a French academic-support organisation, Acadomia, that speculates on how the wild nonsense of Mr Carroll's imagination may have had its beginnings...



Illustrations: © The Estate of Mervyn Peake

Tuesday, 15 June 2010

TWENTY YEARS ON

David and I have been together for twenty years today -- or, ehem, tonight...

David

As that makes it our 'China' Anniversary, we'll very probably celebrate with a Take-away: crispy seaweed, sesame prawn toast, spring rolls, sweet-and-sour pork, beef in black bean sauce, rice and lots of prawn crackers!